How negative are you?
This posting is one of those random streams of thought I’ve had based on an ongoing debate in a forum I visit. The forum is for people who make or want to make a living online and the recent activity of one of the people using the forum just stuck out quite badly. Why? Because of the level of negativity she seems to exude. It just seems to come pouring out of her and the more the argument rages the more she seems to ‘get off’ on the whole experience.
It just made me think. She’s spent hours on this forum being negative, nasty and downright spiteful. The entire argument on the forum was based on a vicious comment she made about the site owner. This bothered me for a lot of reasons.
Why?
This lady (?) had sat down and spent at least 30 minutes putting together pure poison to post on this forum. That’s 30 minutes from her day to do that. She knew in advance that her post would incite a huge row on the forum and create a very negative environment. Yet she still did it. Deep inside her somewhere it makes her feel good to put together a negative attack on somebody else - a person who has only ever offered her help. There are no benefits to her actions - only negatives. She can’t and won’t see this.
Then I got to thinking. How much do we all let negativity control our actions each day? Or our thoughts? How often do we let negative thoughts and feelings take hold and get us down?
How often do we focus on the negative stuff in our lives and forget the positives? How often do we focus on the negative aspects of others and not try to see their positives?
When I thought about it today it struck me that we all do this more than we want to. Focusing on negatives makes us feel bad. It demotivates us and drags us down.
So what can you do about this? The next time you’re beginning a negative thought process or pattern stop yourself. Mentally, emotionally and if needs be physically stop yourself and pick one good thing in your life and focus on that instead. If you have trouble finding one good thing in your life then pick something good you want in your life and focus on that instead. Focusing on anything and I mean ANYTHING other than the negative stuff is where you want your heart, mind and soul.
There are those people in the world who get off on being negative. They love finding fault in others. Let them be. They’re wasting their own lives and happiness. Don’t let them waste yours.
Here endeth the sermon
Niall